Romance: Is it a topic to desire for, or a topic to be desired for?

When I think of romance I think of cupid. I see pink, red, white and a whole assortment of colors. I hear music that beckons for one to instantly turn off the lights and make passionate love. BUT WAIT!!! It was all a damned good dream!!
When you think of romance what comes to your mind? Is it to desire or to be desired for? In relationship to this particular question I think about my many experiences with romance.
At one point in my life romance was to be desired for. I dreamed of romantic nights and days, passion filled exotic and erotic experiences. I felt like romance was an all you can eat buffet! One could never consume too much of it, and the bill for romance was just right.
Is romance something that is a subtle buzz in the human existence during life? Is romance somehow entrenched into out DNA? What the hell is this desire mess!! Romance may appear all consuming and all passion and good feelings (orgasms later), however, romance in itself is a challenge and something that takes a lot of skills and many many failed lessons to easily and readily understand and clearly define romance. Romance will mean many things to many people, but all in all, romance will mean one major victory to the one desiring for and seeking to desire for.
I am always fascinated with how everyone else views and experiences life's daily's in's and out's especially relating with one another. Romance can bring out so many human emotions in people. When one desires romance they will do any and everything to obtain it. Romance can compel one to pursue their ideal or significant other in such a way, that they are blinded by their passions.
Romance has guided me to want to know my lover more. Romance has triggered the inner sexual goddess in me. Romance has allowed me to travel to seek my passion. Blinded by my passions and love, I have exposed myself to my lover. I have allowed myself to lower my guards and trust another. I laid back and let you become one with me, blinded by passion and desire. I have traveled and met you at different locations and fell into step because of my desire for you.
So I have desired and desired for. I have experienced romance at many levels, and continue to experience romance. Tonight this word triggered a lot of feelings and passions within me. Tonight I expressed what romance seems to be, and defined it ever so lightly.


Lesson 2:
A glimpse of romance, can open up one's passions and desires. Romance appears to be something that everyone chases, but something that everyone can't hold onto or for that matter explain and express. So when you get romance and experience that desire and desire for it, then you will begin to openly feel and express those passions. Intensity at ALL LEVELS!

Letting Yourself Go. A Definitive Personal Life Lesson And Experience.

Having a successful relationship takes a lot of work and effort. When you begin to break the dynamics of your relationship down into generalized categories, you then begin to realize that your relationship dominates a major part of your life.
Some of the questions that we may ask ourselves is how can we maintain a successful relationship, and remain balanced in other sectors of our life (work, friends, school, family life).
When I was in my early twenties, it was very difficult for me to maintain my relationship, outside friendships and family life. I became consumed with attempting to be the idolized girlfriend. Linda Carter (Actor who played Wonder Woman) had nothing on me. As my attempts at relationships faltered, I soon began to notice that having a sense of balance and personal stability would not just come from having a relationship, but having the ability to balance myself. I venture to say that I am still attempting to find that balance. Life continues to present so many experiences from which I continue to learn from.
My most reason experience was a short lived one. A relationship that was over before it even started. Sometimes I ask myself, how this particular relationship occurred but I still am answered with sounds of nothingness. What appeared in the beginning to be two adults finding about one another, turned into a drama filled five months until destruction. Some of the key elements I learned in this relationship was trust your inner instincts and feelings regarding someone. Never self doubt. First impressions generally are the right impressions, or at least close to it. Secondly, If you are feeling sorry or inclined to take on the significant other as a charity case,definitely don't go that route, because in the end you will be the one in need of referrals and additional supportive services.
Also feelings of questioning your own stability and sanity persisted, however, I worked through them and past them with the support of friends and a stable social network. Although the relationship ended not in either one of our best intentions and interest, I feel as if I have developed and grown into the woman I visualize to be. I have learned that it is okay to say no. Having the ability to openly communicate and speak whats exactly on your mind is freeing. Actually, if i had the opportunity to go back in time with a few of my past relationships I would have said that "I like you, but I know for me and what I am attempting to gradually grow and develop in wont come from the existence or attempts of me and you. So lets let it dissolve and move on". Well ideally that is what I would have loved to say!

Life lesson 1:
Trust in you. Never doubt who you are. Always know that you can say exactly what you feel! Your desires and passions are to be lived for and dreamed about. You are that important person, and although we may become involved with negative people, or have had negative experiences in our past and present and unforeseeable future, it does not and will not dictate our existence. We are human and prone to mistakes. However, some mistakes can be avoidable, but the ones we don't avoid, comes with a life lesson learned.

YOU WILL SURVIVE!